article on ABCNews.com
few months back, I was contacted by a writer doing an AP story on how couples have honored lost loved ones during their weddings. At first, I wasn't sure how to go about it, but then I remembered not only a majority of our couples struggling with this, but even my now husband and I as well. I agreed to do it, as I have seen so many different ways that loved ones had been honored, I felt it could only help couples that were having trouble with this as well, and needed ideas on how to best honor their specific loved ones, and what worked for them and their family. You can read the full article here
As I said in the article, there isn't a right or wrong way to do this. Some couples have chosen to only do it privately, as it might be too painful for them or another family member. Either way, it is important to have that conversation with your own families and see what works for you.
My husband and I personally honored many loved ones at our wedding, as their names were printed on the program and read after a poem during the ceremony. I kept a piece of my grandmother close to me on the day by wearing her diamond pinkie ring that I was given after she passed away. It was nice to have something to look at throughout the day and be reminded that she was a part of it.
photo by Kate Harrison Photography
Another bride we worked with had a locket with a photo of her loved ones attached to her bouquet, and it was subtle and something she could hold on to throughout the day.
photo by Carlie Statsky
Wishing you all the best on your planning journey, and I hope to share more helpful tips and articles like this one soon.
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Your wedding invitation shares with your guests a small glimpse into your special day, and it also shows off your personality, wedding theme and style of marriage you are planning. Invites have changed considerably over the centuries, but etiquette is the one thing that remains the same. Many rules are still applicable, from addressing the envelopes to what information to include. Read on for tips on creating a flawlessly polished invitation that showcases your personality.
Preparing to Send Out Your Wedding Invitations: The invites are a relevant component of your wedding day because they provide your guests with essential details. While some elements of your wedding may not follow traditional guidelines, your invitations do have a set of time-honored customs that are best to follow. Here are the top 10 wedding invitation etiquette tips surrounding the most pressing wedding invitation-related issues.
Sending out your invitations: Invitations should be sent out between six and eight weeks prior to your wedding date. That gives guests time to make travel arrangements if they do not live nearby. If yours is a destination wedding, send invitations out three months ahead of time to give guests more time to plan.
Outer and inner envelopes. Two envelopes are traditional but not necessary. You can eliminate the inner envelope to save money and postage. If you do use an inner envelope, it should list the names of the guests you are inviting.
Assembling the pieces: To assemble, place the invitation on the bottom with the print side up. Stack other enclosures, such as a reply card, map and reception card, on top in order of size, biggest to smallest. Place the reply card under the return-addressed stamped envelope flap. Put everything in an inner envelope, print side up. With the names facing the back flap, slide the unsealed inner envelope into the outer envelope.
R.S.V.P. deadlines: A response date of two or three weeks before your wedding date allows enough time to get the caterer a final head count, which is usually requested one week before the event. It will also leave you time to finalize a seating chart.
Spell out address details: You should plan to write out Street, Post Office Box, Avenue, and Apartment in full. This is also true for house numbers smaller than 20 and city and state names. Mr. and Mrs. are customarily abbreviated.
How to list the names of couples: You should handwrite your guests' entire names on the outer envelopes. If a woman keeps her maiden name, write the names in alphabetical order. For an unmarried couple that lives together, write the names on two lines.
Specifying a dress code: The simplest method to do this is to add dress code details on a reception card or in the lower right-hand corner of the invite. Acceptable notes include cocktail attire, casual attire or black-tie. Your invitation design will also provide a clue to your guests. A traditional, ultra-formal invitation with calligraphy and letterpress will give guests a hint of the formal nature of the event. A square invite
with a whimsical font and vivid colors fits a much more relaxed situation. You can also steer guests to your wedding website, where you can go into further details about the dress code in a more informal forum.
Placement of the return address: The return address ordinarily is on the back flap of the envelope, and should be that of the person whom you have designated to receive and keep track of the response cards. For instance, if your parents are hosting the wedding, then use their address as the return address.
Including or excluding dates. Most guests understand that if the invitation does not indicate the options for bringing a guest, that means they should not show up with one. While it is nice to welcome everyone to bring a guest, if your wedding is small or budget is limited, your friends and family should follow your reasoning. If a guest responds with a number attending higher than were invited, call them and explain that you have an intimate wedding and that, regrettably, you were not able to invite everyone to bring a guest. However, if you realize that nearly everyone will be in couples, try to extend a plus-one invitation to a few single family members and friends.
Choose your words wisely: Composing wedding invitations involves complex and beautiful etiquette guidelines. Traditionally, whoever is hosting your wedding is listed first on the invitation, and that can become complicated when divorced parents are hosting, when both sets of parents are hosting, or when you are paying for your own wedding. Customarily, you spell everything out, including the time of the ceremony.
Wedding invitation etiquette is a vast and varied area, where traditions and trends come and go. Even if you think you are following all the rules, it is easy to overlook the lesser known, albeit still important, customs to help guide you through this portion of preparing for your big day.
Bryan Passanisi is online marketer and writer living in Redwood City, CA. He graduated from The University of San Francisco with his Bachelor's Degree in Marketing. Bryan has managed a popular wedding blog and has created viral content. He currently is a blogger for Shutterfly
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t is always fun to see a wedding we produced featured in a magazine, but even better when it gets featured again on Style Me Pretty
. This beautiful wedding was designed by Adrianna, and is definitely a stunner! No detail was overlooked, and everything was seamlessly put together.
Enjoy the feature over on Style Me Pretty
for many more images and details. Photos by Josh Guetzmacher
How fun are these late night snack passed In and Out style burgers and milkshakes!
e are so thrilled that this super fun wedding is featured again, this time The Knot
. What a great feature, and timely as well, since their first anniversary is just days away. Thank you to Jesse Leake
for capturing their day so perfectly, and for all the incredible vendors that worked on this wedding. Enjoy!
uly has already come and went, but we have been working away on current and upcoming weddings to even notice. It has been a great month as we not only celebrated our 11 years in business, but also announced that were were selected by the Super Bowl 50 Business Connect Program as a preferred vendor. It is crazy to think that in just a little over four months the city of San Francisco will be preparing for the biggest sporting event to come through here in a long time. We have already been prepared as to the impact it will have on the city and hotels especially, but we are beyond thrilled to be a part of it.
Tomorrow we start what will be our busiest three months of the year, Aug, Sept & Oct., and we have a beautiful intimate wedding we designed kicking it all off in wine country. We will make sure to share images on our social media accounts, so if you aren't already, follow us on Instagram
, as we update much more often there.
With that, we will leave you with this image by Milou and Olin
from a recent wedding we produced with them.
Have a wonderful weekend!